The past ten days have been tough. Work has gotten busy, my dog is unwell, my family life is busy, and I am busy writing and developing my writing. Oh, and I am learning to row and learn how to speak Italian. The serenity has seeped out of my life. Drip, drip, drip, gone, empty.
Nearly 2 weeks ago I had a lovely cosy little life. A life of balance and serenity. This search for a calmer and more controlled existence was what had inspired me to start writing this blog. To share how I had managed to achieve this in my own busy life and to hopefully inspire you to find your own personal oasis within an urban existence.
If you follow my Blog you will soon realise that I always allocate a visual to my blogs and my posts all thanks to my best friend Shutterstock. I thought about going with the quintessential one that we all know; you know the one? The one with a woman looking hot and fanning herself in a sad attempt to keep cool. Now don’t get me wrong, that’s exactly what it can feel like. But I decided to go a more positive way to visualise that Menopause, or the Big M as I like to call it in polite company, doesn’t have to be or isn’t always that bad. I am writing this blog in the hope that it can help, and inform other women out there who are about to embark or who are already on the journey within this major hormonal milestone in a woman’s life.
We all want to feel loved. When my daughter was having a hard time at school with some girls who were just not too nice because they were dealing with their own sense of who they were and their place in the world, I use to say to her “… no matter what, know that you are well loved”. She has grown up to be a kind caring young lady who will look after her friends and is always there for them. Even when she was in that horrid what-happened-to-my-sweet-little-and-who-is-this-mean-rude-girl phase she was always so kind … well … to everyone else … I was not privy to that affection. That’s okay … unconditional love is when your daughter knows you will love her no matter what … pure and simple.
As John Lennon sang “All you need is love”. I believe that love and kindness are two very important elements that go hand in hand. Love and kindness truly do make for a happier and serene world. Can you imagine what our world would be like if, when you accidentally cut someone off in traffic, they smile and gave you that “all good” look? Or if you were taking your time ordering the coffee you like to have, the way you like it, and people smiled and were reminded that we are truly blessed to have choices. Or instead of all those conflicts happening across our world, people decided to drop their guns and bombs and learnt to smile and shake hands and accepted that one’s culture, one’s religion, one’s class and one’s gender is what makes our world so rich. Wouldn’t that be a wonderful global village us earthlings live in!
I love fashion. I mean I just love it! Now let me clear this up for you. It’s not buying new clothes, new shoes or accessories that I adore. I like my clothes because I love the colour, patterns, different textures and different looks. I only buy shoes so they can go with the clothes and style I create each morning. I am not a big fan of accessories and I really only have these to add and they are always playing a neutral addition to my fashion style. I don’t buy any more handbags because I have my basic staple of bags for when I go out. These do include vintage clutches in cream and black which can go with everything. But I love playing with clothes and putting wonderful different looks together. I mix stripes with polka dots, I love to layer. I have a number of styles but my vintage 1950s and 1960s clothes, and those that copy those eras are my favourites. In fact … I love them!
I have found a kind of journaling that allows me to organise my life, make lists (I just love making lists !!) and a platform to purge all the ideas I have running around inside my mind. A place I can build and track my habits so they achieve my goals and allow me to write all my dreams down, to note down all the things I am curious about and to just want to present out to the universe and share all I want to do and experience. It’s called bullet journaling ®. First invented by Ryder Carroll who lives in Brooklyn and who worked as a designer for a number of high-end companies.
Change. There are many definitions of change. The two that sits strongly with me and which define our own journey over the past 16 months is: “make or become different” and “move from one to another” (Google 2018). Our change has been a major one. A new city. A new life. Our daughter at Boarding school living apart from us. It has not been easy and it will continue to be bumpy for another six months. It has been a miraculous and positive experience for us even when we were enduring a number of adversities. What we know for certain is that we love our new city and our new life.
The benefits of a great lie in are so great! For me lulling around in bed after waking up naturally is so deliciously blissful. In a world where our mornings are dictated by the alarm clock, being able to allow our natural circadian rhythms to wake us, is such a treat. For me this is the richness of life. To wake naturally to the morning sun that seeps quietly into my bedroom is serenity in abundance. I live in a converted Woolstore warehouse on the banks of the Brisbane River and we are on the top floor. We have these large windows set into the roof and the apartment is filled with natural light throughout the day. I love waking up to the early morning sun beams that spill quietly across my bedroom. In Summer this happens around 5am. It’s perfect! I get up naturally and at the right time so I get up and go running and, still be able to get ready for work in time! My husband hates it! There is tons of information that advises us on waking naturally and the benefits of going to bed at a reasonable hour to ensure we get the required hours of sleep. The standard is 7-9 hours and this is the amount of sleep we need for optimum health. For me 7 hours is enough. I know this because no matter what time I go to bed I wake naturally approximately 7 hours later. If I do this religiously I will not be tired. But enough about my sleeping habits! Getting enough sleep is about reducing stress and warding off, or improving on, depression and anxiety. It also prevents you from gaining weight. Getting enough sleep reduces the 3pm chocolate craving in the afternoon too!
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