We all want to feel loved. When my daughter was having a hard time at school with some girls who were just not too nice because they were dealing with their own sense of who they were and their place in the world, I use to say to her “… no matter what, know that you are well loved”. She has grown up to be a kind caring young lady who will look after her friends and is always there for them. Even when she was in that horrid what-happened-to-my-sweet-little-and-who-is-this-mean-rude-girl phase she was always so kind … well … to everyone else … I was not privy to that affection. That’s okay … unconditional love is when your daughter knows you will love her no matter what … pure and simple.
As John Lennon sang “All you need is love”. I believe that love and kindness are two very important elements that go hand in hand. Love and kindness truly do make for a happier and serene world. Can you imagine what our world would be like if, when you accidentally cut someone off in traffic, they smile and gave you that “all good” look? Or if you were taking your time ordering the coffee you like to have, the way you like it, and people smiled and were reminded that we are truly blessed to have choices. Or instead of all those conflicts happening across our world, people decided to drop their guns and bombs and learnt to smile and shake hands and accepted that one’s culture, one’s religion, one’s class and one’s gender is what makes our world so rich. Wouldn’t that be a wonderful global village us earthlings live in!
Change. There are many definitions of change. The two that sits strongly with me and which define our own journey over the past 16 months is: “make or become different” and “move from one to another” (Google 2018). Our change has been a major one. A new city. A new life. Our daughter at Boarding school living apart from us. It has not been easy and it will continue to be bumpy for another six months. It has been a miraculous and positive experience for us even when we were enduring a number of adversities. What we know for certain is that we love our new city and our new life.
You hear it all the time when you, yourself is growing up from a little girl to a teenager to a young woman. “Haven’t you grown up” and “I remember when you were this high”. The comments are too many to note down here but you all get the idea and I am sure you all recall comments yourself. My little girl is no longer a little girl. She is one year and one month and three days from turning 18. Here in Australia that makes you an adult. You can vote, you can have sex, you can live on your own, you are legally responsible for yourself. Although, when you look at my “16 going on 17 years” old daughter, she is already there. Being at boarding school to finish off her two senior years of high school, as my husband and I live in another state, has helped her grow up even more. She is strong and resilient and, it does pain me to say this, she swears like a sailor on shore leave.
In reality, my mind and, a large part of my heart, wants her to be independent and strong, and resilient, and to not take on the crap that other people tend to dish out. But it is really hard to let go without getting emotional. My daughter was a little girl who just adored me. A very good friend use to watch us together and remark how she would just follow me around and copy everything I did. I naively thought that I had built this amazing relationship with her that was going to blossom and thrive richly as we both grew as women. This was not the case.
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